Zawaj in french
The word "zawaj" is used
in the Qur'an to mean a pair or a mate. In general it usage refers to marriage.
The qur'an says "And of everything
we created a pair, that happily you may remember." (Qur'an 51:49) The word
for spouse, "zawaj",
(this is the word that is used in the marriage ceremony. ,
). It literally means one
part of a pair - and when the pair come together and act in concert with one
another, then concealed potentials within them, potentials that were impossible
to realize while they were apart make themselves evident. This is true throughout
creation. And human wedding
in the Qur'an is considered a reflection of a nature and tendency that exists
at all levels of creation. When something is created as one part of a pair (bride
and groom) it is clearly incomplete
without the other - as the Qur'an states, "He himself created the pair
- zawaj, male and female." (Qur'an 53:45)
Since "God created everything in Zawaj, as it states in
the Qur'an, and since He "created the male and the female from a single
nature, from a single self", it is God that is the point of reference for
the married pair. "He has set up the balance..." of all things, so
He is to be looked for to set all things in the right equilibrium. If the two
partners of a marriage set themselves in correct relation to God then certainly
a perfect balance will be realized within their lives together.
The choice of a muslim zawaj should be the one with the most
"taqwa" (piety). The prophet recommended the suitors see each other
before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be
thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing
of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical
eye and not a lustful one. This ruling does not contradict the ayah which says
that believing men and women should lower their gaze.
The Zawaj, however are not permitted to be alone in a closed room
or go out together alone. As the hadith says "when a man and a woman are
together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.
Restriction between Muslim Zawaj Before Marriage
- There is no concept of courtship of Muslim Zawaj in Islam
as it is practised in the west.
- There is no dating or living in defacto relationship between Muslims
or trying each other out before they commit to each other seriously.
- There is to be no physical relationship in between Muslim Zawaj what
so ever before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have,
have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved.